Do you ever feel like you don’t really click with your partner the way that you used to? Do you feel like that spark is gone or like you’re drifting apart over time?
It can be surprising. When you got married, you’d never felt closer. There hasn’t been any major negative event, such as job loss, sickness or infidelity. You have no reason to feel less close than you once did, and yet you do. Is something wrong?
While something may be wrong with your relationship, there is nothing fundamentally wrong with this progression. It’s quite normal for couples to not feel as close as they used to feel. This is something that experts and researchers see all the time. Couples cannot always sustain that same level of closeness for years or decades on end.
Sometimes, it’s a temporary thing. You go through a period of feeling father apart, but then you reconnect and your relationship grows strong again. Other times, it’s really the end of the relationship. You continue to drift apart and find that there’s not really any reason to stay married. This is when drifting apart can lead to divorce, even if that major event that ends the relationship never happens. It may just be a slow process that is the result of both of you growing up and changing.
If this does happen to you, don’t worry about whether or not it’s normal. It definitely is. Instead, put your energy into figuring out what rights you have and what legal steps you will need to take to officially get a divorce. An experienced advocate can provide the guidance that you need.