Parents who aren’t in a relationship any longer sometimes have to attend events for their children together. This can be a challenging time, particularly if they don’t get along. It’s imperative that they find ways to remain calm during these events for the sake of the children.
One of the most important things they need to do is to set clear boundaries. Before the event, they should discuss how to handle situations, such as seating, that may come up during the event.
Keep conversations simple
There’s no need to have a deep conversation with an ex just because they’re at the child’s event. Focus on keeping the conversations light-hearted and simple. Sticking to safe topics, such as the actual event or the children may be beneficial. This can help to keep the tension down and may model mature behavior for the children.
Focus on making positive memories
Remember that the child will look back on these moments. Seeing both parents supporting them, even if they’re not together, sends a powerful message. Try to smile for the photos, cheer them on and be present. By prioritizing the child’s joy, parents can help create positive memories that matter far more than any parenting disagreements.
Parents who are attending an event for their children shouldn’t ever use that time to discuss contentious matters. It may behoove them to have this set as a term in the parenting plan so it’s prevented from the start. Working with someone who can assist with getting the plan’s terms in order may be beneficial for these parents.